You don't need to be a mother to be a woman.

The image still haunts me – "How to Conceive Naturally And Have a Healthy Pregnancy after 30" was the title of a book that sat for months on the arm of the sofa in the house I shared with my ex-husband. In early 2017, I would start trying to get pregnant. This too was a decision I hadn’t intentionally chosen, it was just what you did. You got married, you bought a house, you got pregnant. I wasn’t…