If you’ve been reading for long, you know that one of my favorite podcasts is Hidden Brain. It’s all about social and behavioral sciences and how the findings impact our daily lives.
This week, the topic was from a scholar who works in the area of design thinking. Design thinking is all about coming up with solutions to problems using a designer’s mindset. Oftentimes, it’s applied to designing a product, but this particular scholar has been using the same principles and applying them to different aspects of life.
One of the principles he described in the podcast was this:
Aim to be fully engaged and calmly detached.
The minute I heard it, I immediately knew that it applied to parenting.
The “fully engaged” part is pretty obvious. You’re fully present in the moment. You’re not thinking about the next hour from now, or 10 years from now; you’re fully engaged in the moment.
“Calmly detached” means basically you’re letting go of the outcome. The way he describes it is that we all want to be fully engaged with whatever type of relationship or endeavor we’re working on. But the calmly detached part comes in because we don’t have full control over the outcome of whatever we’re doing, even if it’s a relationship.
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