We all process birthdays differently.
And the years we struggle with the most are when our lives feel off-track from where we expect them to be.
I feel you.
One year, I struggled with this notion and decided to write about it. I recently found this list of lessons in one of my journals 📓 written the year I turned 38…
And with today being my birthday, I thought it’d be fun to share this list of 41 lessons with you. [share one if you got one in the comments].
Talk soon - Steven 🦬
Don’t eat yellow snow
Strive for perfect execution over perfect output
Not everything has to be a struggle
There are no trophies for suffering
Floss, it does make a difference
You’ll often seek in others that which you are “missing” in yourself (you think you’re missing it, you just haven’t found it yet)
You came in alone; you’ll leave alone; why not love the only thing you’ll ever own
If you don’t like yourself, it’s going to be hard to expect others to
There are fine lines between compassion, pity, and disdain
Your bad day does not permit you to enforce it (don’t be an asshole)
It’s true what they say about saving your Health
When forgiving others, remember to forgive yourself
You can love someone and not allow a relationship with them
Just because you don’t want to be with someone does not mean you don’t love them and/or do not like them (you can Not like someone and it does not mean you dislike them)
If you’re still breathing, that means it worked out; it varies in time as to when you’ll realize the lesson
Numb is an underrated kind of pain
Medication does not always come in pill form
Memories are malleable
Forgiveness does not mean you support or defend; it means accepting it happened.
Life is novel; death is routine
Information is the only currency
Your relationships represent your core values
Make your bed; it is the least you can do
Gratitude is not a word but an Act, and the same with apologies
Do not be lazy with words; speaking creates your world (Pen > Sword)
Teasing - there is a fine line between loving/passive, hidden, and accepted abuse
Things do get better
Making someone laugh is like showing them a wrinkle in the matrix
We all share sadness, we all share hope
Delaying financial-related matters is like cutting yourself
Know the difference between running from versus running towards
If you don’t know what you want to do or who you want to be, start by getting rid of what you don’t want and see what is left
Not everything can be thought through; you must do something with your conclusions
There is no script, only what you thought was a script
Real growth is being mindful of and accepting others where they are on their journey
Disease can spread to identity
Everything that you need is inside you; you gotta find it (see number 6.)
Ending v Beginning: both a matter of choice
You can look for meaning, or you can make it
Much of what the world argues about is over their subjective definition of labels
Understand the Narratives that run your life, and find a way to drop or re-make your own
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