# Codependency Alchemy A space to heal codependency and the Mother Wound through shadow work, inner child healing, and a return to your most authentic self. Page: Feed: --- ## [The push-pull pattern you don’t realize you’re creating (and why it keeps happening)](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/the-push-pull-pattern-you-dont-realize) _2026-08-19 · Alyssa Zander_ Have you ever chased connection until you felt rejected one too many times and then suddenly found yourself pulling away? [Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/210675328/30a9b4da79e96bd5b5af108d10f6eeb4.mp3) ## [When they pull away (a shadow work + inner child healing session)](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/when-they-pull-away) _2026-08-12 · Alyssa Zander_ A practice for excavating the push/pull dynamic ## [Why do I keep ending up in relationships like this?](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/why-do-i-keep-ending-up-in-relationships) _2026-08-07 · Alyssa Zander_ You push. They pull. Here's what's really happening underneath the surface. ## [The cheat code that changed my relationship with myself](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/the-cheat-code-that-changed-my-relationship) _2026-08-05 · Alyssa Zander_ Have you ever had one of those days where you just don’t feel like yourself? [Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/209181727/a874e3c341652d1b2a877dd9a48cecba.mp3) ## [On guilt, repeating patterns, and why healing isn't linear](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/on-guilt-repeating-patterns-and-why) _2026-07-29 · Alyssa Zander_ Have you ever found yourself thinking, “I thought I already healed this.” ## [August Events for Codependency Alchemy](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/august-events-for-codependency-alchemy-bae) _2026-07-26 · Alyssa Zander_ Come join our live sessions and do shadow work and inner child healing around codependency patterns that might be negatively impacting your relationships. ## [When jealousy shows up (even when you trust your partner)](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/when-jealousy-shows-up-even-when) _2026-07-22 · Alyssa Zander_ Have you ever felt jealous in your relationship... [Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/207092670/1753a89fdab235a36b5a394b4c4bac00.mp3) ## [As you go, remember...](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/as-you-go-remember) _2026-07-19 · Alyssa Zander_ We have grown up in a society that teaches us to compete against one another. To see each other as separate. To believe that if one person has it, it means there is less for you. ## [The part of me that wants a plan...](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/the-part-of-me-that-wants-a-plan) _2026-07-17 · Alyssa Zander_ Our membership chat has certainly been lit this week, but I specifically wanted to share this one post that one of our members dropped in the chat that actually had me go back and open my journal from 2019… ## [Why letting go feels so hard (a shadow work session)](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/why-letting-go-feels-so-hard-a-live) _2026-07-15 · Alyssa Zander_ What are you really afraid will happen if you let go? ## [Crypto Payments, No Custody (Sponsored)](https://crawlproof.com/a/uwdXe64KYXn1) _2026-07-15 · **Sponsored**_ Send crypto to merchant wallets via API with real-time updates and automatic fees. ## [The future I had to grieve](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/the-future-i-had-to-grieve) _2026-07-10 · Alyssa Zander_ The Art of Letting Go ## [The real reason you can't let go of your ex](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/the-real-reason-you-cant-let-go-of) _2026-07-08 · Alyssa Zander_ Have you ever felt like you couldn’t let go of someone even though you knew the relationship was over? [Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/204187084/0fe5c3310a660eff90b72670eff86485.mp3) ## [Not sure where to start?](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/not-sure-where-to-start) _2026-07-01 · Alyssa Zander_ One of the questions I get asked the most is: “Which podcast episode should I listen to first?” ## [July Events for Codependency Alchemy](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/july-events-for-codependency-alchemy-f5b) _2026-06-28 · Alyssa Zander_ Come join our live sessions and do shadow work and inner child healing around codependency patterns that might be negatively impacting your relationships. ## [How Substack became my full-time job](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/how-substack-became-my-full-time) _2026-06-25 · Alyssa Zander_ It was Summer 2023 and I was desperate to find a platform that could hold this vision I had of a global community, coming together to heal codependency and the mother wound. ## [On asking for what you need, letting go, and repairing after conflict](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/on-asking-for-what-you-need-letting) _2026-06-24 · Alyssa Zander_ A community AMA chat answering all your relationship questions ## [The answer you're looking for probably isn't where you've been searching](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/the-answer-youre-looking-for-probably) _2026-06-23 · Alyssa Zander_ Five years ago I was sitting with one of my best friends, baby growing in her womb, and her daughter right next to me on my bright and colorful sarape. ## [What if the pattern isn’t the problem?](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/what-if-the-pattern-isnt-the-problem) _2026-06-17 · Alyssa Zander_ Have you ever caught yourself spiraling and thought, "Why am I doing this again?" This episode is about what happens when we stop trying to get rid of the pattern and start listening to what it's trying to tell us. [Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/201480835/9c62eb53dfa0ba2b117eac1de6ba195f.mp3) ## [What are you afraid will happen if you finally accept yourself?](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/what-are-you-afraid-will-happen-if) _2026-06-10 · Alyssa Zander_ Watch now | A live shadow work + inner child session ## [Cultivating Acceptance](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/cultivating-acceptance) _2026-06-05 · Alyssa Zander_ "The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely" ## [Refer a Friend, Earn Rewards (Sponsored)](https://crawlproof.com/a/H3Nsf3w0elak) _2026-06-05 · **Sponsored**_ Earn rewards when friends get the Graphite Business Card through your referral. ## [Why you feel the need to fill the space in relationships](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/why-you-feel-the-need-to-fill-the) _2026-06-03 · Alyssa Zander_ Have you ever felt the need to fill the silence in your relationship just to make sure everything was okay? [Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/199485740/90efeeab473d048eb9063647ce300252.mp3)