Future Self Tea Ceremony (how to)

Step 1: Grab two cups and sit at a table with an empty chair beside you

Step 2: Pour two cups of tea, one for you, one for your “future self”

Step 3: Drink the tea together, and in a meditative state, ask your future self for answers to your most burning questions

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I poured my future self a cup of tea, and sat across from her at my kitchen table with a second cup in front of me, following the instructions on the tiktok video I had just watched, line for line.

In my meditative state, tea poured, I used this opportunity ask my “future self” the burning questions I wanted answers to the most, like “what was it was going to take to finally make my business successful?” and “when am I finally going to meet my future husband.” And by the grace of God, “did we somehow get to keep the damn apartment?????????”

But she didn’t give me answers any of those questions.

Instead, my cat was meowing.

I was eager to quiet him, brushing his hair with my fingers, as was customary.. one of his favorite things in the universe was mediating with me, and I urged him to be quiet so I could hear what she had to say.

Instead, she quieted me.

“You better appreciate that little cat who is right in front of you” the internal voice shook.

I have never forgotten that moment, and that one sentence fundamentally changed my relationship with Meeko from that moment forward.

It provided the perspective of temporality.

This happened nearly 2.5 years ago, but this week, I felt the exact moment I became my future self.

I may not have the husband, or live in that freaking apartment… I’m starting to have the business….

But it was the week I lost my little cat; he crossed over last week.

During the height of my grief stricken state, I was hesitant to broach the topic of quantum leaping. My life had shifted so fast in such a heartbreaking and unexpected fashion, that I didn’t want to focus on creating a new reality the same way I did when I was desperate to escape my own.

I wouldn’t necessarily say I handled grieving Meeko well; in a lot of ways, losing him brought out the absolute worst in me. I don’t say that to be self depreciating, but from a place of pure observation. Grief made emotional regulation nearly impossible, and I found myself saying things I knew I didn’t really want to say, but I couldn’t catch them before they came out of my mouth.

Grief is unbearably painful, but it also provides perspective.

It made me realize that nothing is granted, and while time isn’t necessarily real, it is limited. I was told less than 2 months ago that Meeko had 4 years left; he didn’t.

This past week has certainly felt like a year, grief turning the dial, and making things feel like they’re moving forward in slow motion.

At the very least, I hope you throw yourself a tea ceremony, to see what your future self has to say.

The message from mine these days is very direct:

Did you really ever believe that this wasn’t going to work?

I’ve incorporated this tea practice into my annual Quantum Leap Week (same time every year.. with the timing of all of it, how could I not?) along with other resources and modalities to help you reprioritize yourself and your dreams and releasing everything that’s kept you stuck in the process. Details here.

Fall / Winter 2026-27 Planners are also available on preorder- purchase here.

xoxo,

Allison

ps- I made a free 12-page “before the leap” guide- if that feels like where you’d like to start, click here to download. I’d recommed incorporating this into the tea party.