There are Very Few Ways of Actually Getting Neuro-Affirming Parenting Wrong

“I don’t want to get it wrong. I don’t want to screw them up. I don’t want to do a bad job. I don’t want to make it harder for them. I don’t know what to do. I’m scared.”

I know. I was too, still am actually.

But in reality, there are very few ways of getting parenting wrong when you’re travelling the neuro-affirming path. Even if you don’t know where the path is headed.

Here are a few barriers to getting things so-called ‘right’…

• Thinking that there’s a right

• Experts thinking that they’re right

• Outsourcing our knowing to blogs, books, articles, other people

• Going against what feels right

• Navigating unsolicited advice

No parent wants to parent worse than their potential. That’s what it all rolls up to. We know in theory that ‘good enough’ parenting is good enough. But ‘good enough’ is not our individual aim, realistically, as individuals, we’re mostly aiming for superb. And to achieve superb most of us assume we need to level up. Glow up. Study. Learn. Do better. Get better. Change. Become more. Become someone else.

It’s a lot.

Honestly, all of those things just take us away from what FEELS right, and perpetuate the myth that there ACTUALLY IS a right.

If you are travelling a neuro-affirming path you’ll be aware that your child’s capacity is enough and that they are not the problem. (The structures, standards and systems of oppression are the problem). Are you aware that the same goes for you?

That your capacity is enough? That you are not the problem?

Your parenting doesn’t need you to reach outwards for more wisdom, it requires you to sense inwards. And trust yourself.