Certified Personal, Professional and Leadership Development Coach. Based in Kramfors and Stockholm, Sweden. PCC ICF.
Much of my work recently has been facilitating constellations. Constellations, in this context, have nothing to do with stars or astrology. Rather, it’s a method of working with people that resolves frozen and repeated patterns in families, organisations, and systems. Continue reading
We are hosting a Spring Retreat on June 3rd-7th here at the Allsta Gård farm. The retreat is designed for professionals and leaders to step back and connect with what matters. It s space to get in touch with yourself, your body, and Continue reading
The weather can be quite extreme up here in the north. This week the temperature dropped to -32°C. In late December there was an extreme storm that caused power outages for days. A week later one meter of snow fell Continue reading
In Sweden, there is a strong tradition of celebrating Walpurgis Night on April 30th. Bonfires are lit throughout the country, and local communities come together to mark the start of spring. In my younger years, the day was an excuse Continue reading
Earlier this week, my partner Jana and I received the keys to Allsta Gård. It’s an integrated Bed Breakfast, event venue, and organic farm outside of Kramfors, Sweden. It’s slightly baffling that we’re finally here. It’s been quite the ride. Almost Continue reading
In our happiness-oriented culture, making other people happy is considered a virtuous goal. Making our partners happy, our children happy, our customers happy, our employees happy – it’s all seen as a universal good regardless of context. You can even Continue reading
Over the past couple of years, I have developed a fascination with regenerative agriculture. It started as an intellectual curiosity, first inspired by Will Rolph’s work with Two Fields, a regenerative oil olive producer. In an early Yellow session he Continue reading
I ve been asked several times recently to give talks and workshops about stress management. When I present my views, there is one particular idea that always seems to spark discussion. This has happened enough times that I thought it would Continue reading
This is an academic paper I presented at The International Studying Leadership Conference 2023 in Copenhagen, Denmark. Download (PDF) We find ourselves in a “time between worlds” – an epoch in which the old paradigm is cracking and new horizons Continue reading
Indigestion is painful. Bloated, stuck, and slow. Distracted and preoccupied. Snappy and short-tempered until the discomfort subsides. When our gastrointestinal system doesn’t digest properly, it’s hard to be fully present. The same is true of our emotional world. When we Continue reading
Freedom is held to be one of the highest virtues in today’s world. Most of us define freedom as an absence of limitation. The fewer constraints we have, the more free we think we are. Obligations or dependencies are considered Continue reading
I hear the words “in order to” a lot these days. People meditate “in order to” be focused and productive. Teenagers study “in order to” get good grades and have successful careers. Entrepreneurs start businesses “in order to” make a Continue reading
My new book is out now. It s called On Relationality: Lessons from Martin Buber on Living in Relation with Self, Others, the World, and Life Itself. You can buy the paperback version here or the digital version here. (These are Continue reading
Lessons learned from a seven-day silent meditation retreat Continue reading
Many people—and many men in particular—try to fix emotions providing solutions. It's a project that's doomed to fail. Instead, we are called to learn to meet our emotions and the emotions of others. Continue reading
What our metaphors lead to – and what leads us to our metaphors Continue reading
Tapping into the information at our fingertips and melting the ice of numbness Continue reading
How striving to become more disciplined and focused can lead us astray Continue reading
What if you didn't need to get anywhere? However absurd that question may sound, that is exactly what we practice in Yellow (yellowlearning.org). Both for us Robert and I as conveners, and for the participants themselves, every session is a practice in letting go of expectations. It's a constant invitation to meet the moment, dive into messy complexity, listen to what's emerging – and to be being…
Inevitably, there are moments in leadership and life where we get triggered. When there’s a conflict, you might become scared and anxious. If someone questions your decisions, perhaps you get angry and resentful. Or when a colleague is emotional, maybe Continue reading
This essay was published by Perspectiva. Read the essay here or download a PDF version here. It’s common these days to hear calls for new worldviews. New paradigms are sought after and better futures are longed for. Many people are Continue reading
When we're stuck, we're frozen. But the harder we try to break the ice, the more it cracks and falls apart. It leaves us with nothing but sharp edges and cuts on our hands and legs. So how do we get unstuck? Continue reading
An exploration of the consequences of holding back, and what an alternative might be. Continue reading
We view the world through the lens of overcoming our challenges and struggles. But must we overcome? And is there another way? Continue reading
As we cook the soup of our lives, bubbles will always emerge on the surface. How do we respond to the bubbles we see Continue reading
How do we knead the dough of our work and lives? What do we fold in, and what do we fold out? Continue reading
Meetings take up much of our time. But what does it actually mean to meet? How are you meeting yourself, others, and the world? Continue reading
An Essay on Embodiment, Presence, and Emotional Capacity in Leadership Continue reading
We like to talk about the opportunities and the gifts of times of crisis. But are they really gifts that just fall into our lap? Or are they invitations, that demand a response? Continue reading
A break is not nothing. It's a pregnant pause that determines what comes next. How will you use yours? Continue reading
When disruption strikes, our expectations turn to dust. We lose our sense of certainty and despair over our lost futures. But what if we held our expectations more lightly? Continue reading
When tense situations arise, we get easily seduced into pessimism or optimism. But both options pull us out of the action. The alternative? To stand in the *tragic gap*. Continue reading
We tell ourselves to remain calm and to avoid decisions made out of fear. But the result is that we end up avoiding emotions altogether. What if we actually *feel* what is arising? What if we give space to our fear? Continue reading
In times of crisis, it’s easy to say, “we will emerge stronger from it.” This can certainly be true. Often, people and systems do emerge more resilient after challenging times. But this is a passive stance. It assumes that the Continue reading
What childhood development and attachment theory can reveal about your decision-making tendencies. Continue reading
Leadership is a conversation—between yourself, your team, and the world around you. What type of conversation do you want it to be? Continue reading
How to create space to think, to feel, and to lead Continue reading
Read to learn about how doing less can lead to achieving more. Continue reading
Climbing mountains can feel like making progress. But transformative journeys don't happen when you go up. Instead, they happen when you go down—down into the valley of fire. Continue reading
At Capital Camp in Missouri, former NFLer Dhani Jones and I discussed the insights we gained from a master butcher. Here's what we learned about leadership and life. Continue reading
Why self-conflict is often viewed as a fight between our inner matador against our inner bull – and how to play a different game altogether. Continue reading
Doers love immediate action, progress and praise. But becoming a leader requires a very different set of behaviors. What got you here, won't get you there. Continue reading
We tend to see the world in black and white. But there's another mindset that's more open and suited to dealing with uncertainty, complexity and change. It's called grayscale thinking. Continue reading
Goals can be useful. But they can also get in the way of what you actually want. What's a more effective approach? The timeless art of conditionlessness. Continue reading
Adventure and thrills seem rare and hard to find. But they can always be discovered – if you know where to look, that is. Continue reading
Being a contrarian and innovating leads to progress. But that progress has a price: the guilt of leaving the group behind. Continue reading
To move forward, you have two choices. You can learn something new. Or you can unlearn what's keeping you stuck. Continue reading
Inspiration is easy. Real growth and transformation? That’s a different ball game altogether. Continue reading
You’re driven. You have an impact. And you’re liked by everyone you know. These qualities have served you well. But, in their current form, they’re also keeping you stuck exactly where you are. Learn about what it takes to step up to the next level of you. Continue reading
Leadership is influence, and influence is sales. So how well do you know your "customers'" needs? And are you ready to sell yourself? Continue reading