"But I Never Asked You To Do That For Me"

I'd genuinely and sincerely do something for you, out of the kindness of my heart, you'd now open that your mouth and tell me, eh, "but I never asked you to do that for me." Ah! I fit craze.

Egbami! (Help me), you mean to tell me my effort means nothing? As in pe, I should mind my business? Kosi wahala (no problem)

Who said there's no problem? There's wahala! Plenty wahala! Because the audacity and the disrespect and the ungratefulness of that statement will never not shock me. It's funny and not funny because I'd begin laughing. What do you mean “but I never asked you to do that”. Omo, I'd be so hurt.

Abi is it just me who's over thinking that statement? You people don't understand how that sentence can wound someone. I'm not talking about small wound oh, I'm talking about the kind of wound that makes you question why you even bothered being kind to the person in the first place.

What do people mean when they say that because I think they're basically saying your thoughtfulness, your effort, your time is worthless because they didn't explicitly demand it.

Imagine your friend is clearly struggling with something and maybe they are overwhelmed with work, maybe they are going through a tough time, maybe they just need help and they are too proud or too tired to ask. So you, being a decent human being, you step in and you help them. You go out of your way and you sacrifice your time, your energy, sometimes even your money, because you care and then one human being will now ask you one stupid question.

Questions like this are exactly why some people avoid being nice when they see others struggle. It's just all shades of wrong.

So I should have seen you struggling and look away? Is that what we're doing now? And the thing that pains me the most is that these same people, these same ones with their mouth like four figure table, that will tell you "I never asked you," are the same ones that will vex if you don't help them when they need it.

They'll be forming independent, "I can handle it myself," but the moment you actually leave them to handle it themselves, you'll hear "I thought we were friends" or "you just watched me suffer."

So which one is it? Do you want help or not? Because I'm confused. You don't want people doing things for you without asking, but you also want people to magically know when you need help and provide it? Make it make sense.

And it's not even about expecting a thank you oh. I'm not out here doing things so people can worship me or build statues for me but at minimum, AT MINIMUM, don't insult the gesture. Be human abeg! Ah omo! Stop making people feel stupid for caring. It's not nice.

If you don’t want the help, say you don't want it. open your mouth and say you appreciate it but you'd rather handle it yourself and that's fine. But to now accept the help, benefit from it, and then turn around and act like it was unsolicited? You're just wicked.

Wo(see), at this point, nobody should even stress me. Everyone for themselves, God for us all.