Security guy’s first-hand experience with the problematic nature of men who say they’re women.

I watched a fascinating YouTube video recently about the experiences of a security guy, who regularly had to deal with men who say they’re women. He didn’t have a lot of good things to say about it, even with the caveat of #notalltrans. The ‘not all’ is true of any group or demographic, but some have a significant minority who can be relied on to repeatedly cause trouble, to the extent that it needs to be factored into situations.

Security guy, who doesn’t give his name, but calls his channel The Gear Guy, talks about an array of topics. The subject of men who say they’re women is but one amongst many, and in the video at the bottom of this blogpost he tells us about what he saw in the gay nightclubs and bars those men frequented, during the time he worked security in them. He decided to talk about it, because what he witnessed was very different to the popular narrative by, and about, these men. This narrative, which is parroted without thought, paints them as all being safe, harmless, and nice, and their presence in women’s toilets is a non-issue.

That, unfortunately, is a complete lie, he says.

I acknowledge that security guy is speaking from one perspective – but, the behaviour he witnessed in nightclubs and bars by men who say they’re women is not wildly out of character from what we see the rest of the time.

Broadly-speaking, he noticed that there were three divisions amongst the biological males who adopted a woman persona. The very effeminate men never gave any trouble, and whilst the drag queens could get a bit catty amongst themselves, they didn’t really cause too much in the way of problems, either. Women who said they were men also never gave any trouble. However, the majority of the biological men who said they were women were generally very unpleasant to deal with, and gave the most problems.

Security guy observed that these men were far from effeminate, and often big hulking dudes who’d decided they were women. They came across as men with a sexual fetish. He takes issue with the fact that the ‘trans’ community has become so untouchable it’s become almost impossible to question the motives of what may be creepy perverted men without being called the usual array of names, and shut down.

The behaviour by this group of men could be much more aggressive than the other groups he mentioned, particularly towards women. There were many occasions when women would come out of the toilets and say “There’s a guy in there swinging his dick around, or just walking around, you know, with his bits out and purposely doing it obviously to make us feel uncomfortable.”

Or, the man would be sitting on the toilet in a stall with the door wide open, urinating, but staring ominously at everyone, as though daring them to challenge him. If security did challenge him, he would claim that he had every right as a woman to be there. There were times when those men went further than exhibitionism and voyeurism, and didn’t keep their hands to themselves.

Although the women would report the incidents to security, they seldom wanted to press charges. This is not uncommon amongst those who’ve been sexually assaulted in any way. Victims don’t often like to press charges in situations where something’s happened out of sight, and they can’t produce solid evidence. It becomes their word against the perpetrator’s, and being shredded in court by a defence team is a scary prospect. So, all that could be done was for security to keep an eye on these men.

However, generally-speaking, security guy would throw the offending male out of the nightclub or bar. That in itself caused problems, because the evicted men would organise a massive ‘transphobia’ complaint campaign to the venue in question. Many of the venues had left-leaning management, who would care less about the fact there was a victim of assault or an offensive occurrence, and more about their PR and supporting trans ideology.

Sometimes, hen parties would go to gay nightclubs and bars, and have a great time. But, they would only see the shiny paper-thin presentation of fun, and never saw the darker side where the unpleasantness, heavy drug use, and extreme sexual acts lurked. In security guy’s opinion, predatory men abounded in these places, and donning a wig and a dress was no trouble at all to go to for that purpose, despite ludicrous claims to the contrary.

In one way, what security guy talks about in the video is revelatory, but we also know it from other sources, too. The predatory nature of a significant number of men who say they’re women is increasingly well known. One only has to read Reduxx to see how prevalent it is for such a small ‘community’ of people; and see the prison stats which show that men who say they’re women are imprisoned for sexual offences at around twice the rate of other men, oftentimes more. This is consistent across every country that collects the data, including NZ.

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• Some info about the prison system in NZ: In the 11 years between 2014 and 2025 that Corrections NZ have been putting men who say they’re women into women’s prisons, there have been 34 assaults by them, including two sexual assaults in 2017 and 2019. Corrections NZ changed its policy a few years ago about putting men in women’s prisons, reportedly after an incident where a man who said he was a woman got his female cell-mate pregnant. Men who say they’re women don’t get imprisoned with women if they have been convicted of a serious sexual assault. Neither do men who say they’re women get to share a cell with women. All the cells in newer or upgraded prisons have their own bathroom facilities. A man who says he’s a woman can apply to be transferred from the men’s prison to the women’s prison, but a risk assessment is carried out beforehand. This is all just fyi, as the bottom line should really be that no man gets incarcerated with women under any circumstances.